If you’re starting to become quite baffled by men, and frustrated by your relationships, then I’m about to share with you secrets about men that you won’t find anywhere!

See, contrary to popular belief, men do NOT (nor will they ever) think like women. So if you place your assumptions in the hope that just because YOU like something done to you then your man must too, then you’re going to get surprised! Men do not react or take notice of the same things as women do.

As we settle into the 21^st century, a lot of changes have been made that women 50 years ago did not have to worry about.

Courting and attracting men used to be a “none issue” as most marriages were arranged and usually it was the “men” who did the courting. Us women just had to smile and look pretty, wait until the men came to us and then did as we were told.

Things are much more complicated now, hence why so many women are finding themselves alone, rejected and hurt over and over again from men who are after anything BUT a marriage.

Now that women have the choice to choose who they would date, have sex with and marry, that’s when all the trouble started. How do you know the guy you’re dating is really the one for you?

How do you know they want the same thing as you, will treat you right, commit to you and you alone and ultimately marry you and support your kids?

The problem with modern women is that they believe, if they treat men like they want to be treated, then eventually they’ll get loved in return.

Things like:

• Doing everything for the guy
• Saying I Love You too early
• Pushing for commitment before they’re ready
• Calling too often and too soon
• Being too nosy and wanting to smother the guy every 2 seconds

You do these things to show your man you’re “interested” and you love him right? Ok, yes guys need to feel loved and cared for too, however there is a thing as “too much” and “too soon”.

That means if you want a man to CHASE you, you need to stop chasing him first!

Things that constitutes as chasing are:

• Calling and showing too much interest when they have barely said a word to you (1 text message does not count)
• You’re usually the one initiating dates or asking them to hang out
• When you “feel” more needy than they are.

So if you suspect you may be, then you probably just need to focus more on YOURSELF than on him.

Believe it or not, men DO enjoy the chase. They want a woman that’s a bit of a challenge. Make it too easy for them and they’ll lose interest quickly.

Now, to be fair, some women can take this too far and play major “hard to get”. Some guys will dig it, others will be really turned off.

So although you want to encourage the guy to chase, you don’t want to play so many mind games that you end up being dishonest about your feelings and pissing him off at the same time.

For example, spending all night waiting by the phone, waiting for him to call, and then telling him “You were out shopping” when he asks if you’d being thinking about him, is being dishonest and playing mind games. Saying instead that “you’ve only thought about him a bit” is just fine.

Although, really, why are you waiting by the phone all night anyway?!

This is why you need to make sure your ACTIONS line up with what you’re saying. If you want a man to chase, your actions must say that:

• You’re not going to wait for a man, any man
• You’re going to put yourself and your interests first above any guy
• You’re not going to alter your schedule just for a guy
• You’re not going to say something just because you “think” that’s what the guy wants to hear. If you have an opinion about something, say it. A guy will find you more attractive when you are being yourself.

When you do the above, you’ll find that almost “like magic”, guys will be chasing you. Because of your new “lifestyle” and mentally, you’re elusive and guys “want you” because your actions say you can’t be caught but they can try!

The other part of having this type of mentally, is having confidence and strength to hold yourself this way in most situations.

That means, if a guy starts to chase and then sees you’re not just another easy catch. You’re actually a woman of QUALITY, he MAY say to himself, “screw that, I’m going to find someone easier”.

This is when you do NOT suddenly think, “Oh no, he’s losing interest because I’m not paying him enough interest, maybe I should start showing more interest”.

WRONG!

As soon as you do, he’ll realize you’re just playing games and not really of high quality like he first thought. He may give in to you for a night or two, and then lose interest later anyway.

So girls, when you start to carry yourself this way, you MUST have the backbone to carry it through all the way!

If a guy stops chasing that easily he isn’t worth your time! So don’t give him another thought because another guy will come along very quickly.

Now, at some point when the relationship turns significantly more serious, then you do need to compromise a little. Remember, for a successful relationship, you must work “together” as a team and fulfil each other’s needs. This requires regular communication and not being afraid to say things that bother you.

Do not be scared to ruffle the feathers of a relationship because to make it last and to strengthen the bond, you will need to test it to its limits at some point in time. This is one of the only ways you both can have absolute certainty that your relationship can withstand any obstacle and each of you can still come out happy and in love.

Have a guy in mind who you want to start chasing you?

Most people freak out in the initial stages of a break up. Emotions run high and you feel like a complete mess.

The Typical Break Up Emotion Cycle consists of:

ANGER -> CONFUSION -> NUMBNESS -> CONFUSION -> ANGER

As you can see, it’s a cycle from feeling anger, confusion, numbness back to confusion and then anger again.

This cycle can last for weeks or even months. When you’re in this state of Emotional Cycle, it’s very hard to know what to do or what to think. And the worst part is it’s extremely difficult to pull yourself out of this emotional cycle.

Your mind is virtually like a mini cyclone of NEGATIVE thoughts and feelings.

The thing is we can become ADDICTED to these feelings. The more you feel bad, the more you want to FOCUS on feeling BAD. Makes no sense, but a part of our human nature is that we NEED to feel emotions, whether good or bad. It’s what separates us from machines and other animals.

The problem is you can’t FUNCTION when you’re in this state. When you can’t think rationally, or feel NORMAL, how can you possibly attract your ex back? That’s when you start making crucial errors like:

• Calling them over and over.
• Professing your love.
• Crying and begging for forgiveness.
• Using guilt trips or anger to try to change their mind.
• Getting frustrated and doing all sorts of illogical and inappropriate things to get their attention.

Now what do you think your ex is going to think when you start to freak out on them? The LAST thing they would want to do is come back to a needy, desperate and irrational lunatic who probably doesn’t even know WHAT went wrong in the relationship.

Don’t feel bad if you have made these mistakes, it’s quite common.

Getting Your Emotions In Order

If you’re certain you’re still going through these emotions on a regular basis (eg. Daily) I want you to first:

• Recognise they’re there.
• Understand they won’t completely go away unless you’re over the break up.
• Understand that in order to get your ex back as quickly as possible, you must CONTROL your emotions first.

Emotions can be controlled by DIVERTING your focus. When you FOCUS on these emotions, that’s when you start to lose yourself in it. All you need to do is alter your focus, DO something else. Go somewhere. THINK about something else. Don’t allow yourself to be locked into tunnel vision once you start to run one of the emotional patterns.

Recognise when it happens and then INTERPRET the pattern by doing something else!

In The Ex Recovery System I let you in on 2 Powerful Tactics for coping and keeping down those Emotional Feelings of Panic: The Complete Control Technique and the Instant Emotion Buster. I use both myself and they’re true lifesavers for times when you feel you can’t “handle your heart break anymore”.

But MOST importantly they’re TOOLS you can use to instantly feel good.

The faster you do this the faster you can get your ex back!

Once you download the Ex Recovery System, you’ll see how simple these actually are!

Turn Up Your Attraction Meter

The next step is to increase your ATTRACTION/HOT/Babe Meter… whatever you want to call it. You know, the chemistry between you that were present in the beginning of a relationship but have since died.

You want to increase your ex’s DESIRE for you, the easily and quickest way to do this is to:

Turn your FOCUS away from your ex and onto YOURSELF.

This concept goes along the same lines of “reverse psychology”. Since the break up, you’ve likely made yourself extremely available to your ex, in the hopes that they’ll think you care, love them and want them back.

Unfortunately that’s not how attraction works.

You must AGREE with the break up & remove availability to inject DESIRE.

The only time you want something is when you don’t have it right? Therefore if you want your ex to want you, you must make sure they don’t have you.

BUT, remember there is a RIGHT way to do this, and a WRONG way too. I mean, you certainly wouldn’t want to be SO removed from your Ex, that they run away thinking that you’re not interested anymore, do you?

In The Ex Recovery System, I reveal EXACTLY what you need to do to inject the RIGHT kind of desire into your Ex, without making them think you’ve lost all interest!

WARNING!

Being Friends With An Ex

One area people make a mistake of is by “agreeing to be friends” with an ex. Please let me stress, you do NOT want to be labelled as FRIENDS.

This means even IF you have agreed to be friends, instead of telling them “you’ve changed your mind” – which is inconsistent with your earlier action – you’re just not going to put any label on your relationship.

Don’t confirm or deny being friends.

But what if you are already friends with your ex? That’s ok, just keep doing what you’re doing, except with a few secret attraction boosters… these I reveal within The Ex Recovery System, and they work whether or not you see or talk to your ex every day.

The Key to Putting It All Together

Remember, the First IMPORTANT steps to get your ex back as quickly as possible are to…

1. Regain CONTROL of your emotions.
2. Turn focus AWAY from your ex and onto YOURSELF.
3. AGREE with the break up and put some distance between you and your ex (removing availability).

This is only the first steps to getting your ex back HOWEVER, you MUST have an overall PLAN, so you know exactly what to do to NEXT.

Like I said, once you’re onto the stage of removing availability and putting focus on yourself, you might still SCREW THINGS up if you don’t know what to do next!

The Ex Recovery System will reveal:

• When to initiate Contact – what to say, how to say it.
• How to get your emotions in order so you can AGREE with the break up.
• Exactly what to say and do to get your ex back as quickly as possible.
• How to be the ultra magnetic babe so your Ex will instantly be attracted to you again!
• How to inject the fire and passion back into your relationship.
• Much more!

The Ex Recovery System was written for people just like you, going through a break up and wanting a solution QUICKLY to help you get your relationship back.

I understand how frustrating it is to read a book and then realize the information is TOO VAGUE to actually take action upon. And the problem is many Ex Back products still do this… offering vague or general advice that doesn’t REALLY produce results.

The Ex Recovery System is a step-by-step solution that hand holds you through every step of your break up. You won’t ever be left guessing what to do next.

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Not only does it detail all the steps on doing the RIGHT things, it helps you eliminate inner conflict and gives you the MENTAL strengths to carry through to be the Best Man or Woman you can be!

After reviewing dozens of competing products, The Ex Recovery System comes up MILES ahead of the rest because:

• It uses the LATEST psychological tactics that are subtle but extremely powerful. There are not ONE but TWO primary methods for getting an ex back – which is virtually UNHEARD-OF as you won’t find this within any other product out there.
• It caters to average folks just like you, written in a simple to follow format, that isn’t boggled down by fluff or filler content. Over 130 pages of PURE CONTENT.
• In-depth Examples on Letters, what to say, do or act when around your ex. I’ve been told this has been the most helpful as people learn best off examples.
• Learn potent tactics that work extremely FAST in getting your ex to do a 180 degree in terms of your relationship… they’ll be begging YOU back.
• How to quickly ease your break up pains, mend your broken back and get your lover back RIGHT NOW.
• Much much more!

You can obtain a copy of the COMPLETE Ex Recovery System within as little as 5 minutes. Due to the internet, it is available in digital format which you can download right away. No more waiting for books to be delivered and wasting precious time getting started.

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I hope to talk to you soon,

Your Pal, Ashley

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So what is really going on?

I want you to know that what they THINK is the reason, isn’t really the reason.

The REAL reasons Why Relationships Fail

Relationships are made up of the needs of TWO people, however, whether male or female, people are people and we all follow similar Laws when it comes to why we choose to stay in a relationship.

The Soul of a Relationship consist of 4 primary needs:

• Love – ability to relate, communication, common interests
• Physical Proximity – physical distance between you and your partner
  on a regular basis
• Sex / Initimacy – passion, physical affection, sexual intimacy
• Security – trust, comfort, stability and commitment

These are what is required for ALL human beings in order for them to STAY in a relationship.

However these needs are not always weighed upon equally. Usually what happens when 1 need is lacking is, we’ll try to compensate by seeking MORE of the other needs. Either way, when we evaluate relationships, we look at all our needs (subconsciously) and evaluate whether it’s worth keeping it going.

Evaluation may take months or years until usually a boiling point is reached.

A part from these COMMON needs, there are also Masculine and Feminine Needs as well. These are what separates what Men want and what Women want in a relationship.

Due to the fact that masculine and feminine traits can be cross-gendered, I recommend you read both sections for Male and Female.

Why MEN Leave A Relationship

The biggest reasons men want out is when they stop feeling like a MAN in a relationship. This means their woman stops appreciating and respecting his needs and desires to be the MAN in the relationship.

A man is someone who is NEEDED and DESIRED for his masculinity.

What women tend to want to do is nag, complain and criticize their man. This only makes a guy feel inadequate because he feels he can’t please his woman or make her happy.

Clingy women also spell disaster for a guy because for a guy to feel like a MAN, he needs to have the freedom to do what he wants when he wants…. NOT to feel restricted to doing things HER way all the time.

Women, you should never feel like you need to control your man or tell him how to act all the time… if a man loves you, he’ll WANT to make you happy and he’ll ASK what you want… but if you just tell him to do something or order him to do it, he’ll feel much less inclined.

The Cure?

Go back to basics, how did you attract your guy in the first place? Some of things guys are attracted to are:

• Confident women who are strong and can stand on their own two feet.
• A woman who is SUPPORTIVE of her man.
• A woman who is secure in herself and in the relationship.

Stop nagging at him because as a guy, he won’t get it no matter how hard you pester him.

This is very easy to do once you learn a few skills…If you are serious about getting your “man” back…keeping him once you have got him back…or even if you are in a good relationship now and want to ensure a long healthy relationship…

I want you to go grab this book right now…

It’s called The Ex Recovery System, and I’ll show you how you can be confident, supportive and virtually be the WOMAN your man was initially attracted to again. You’ll be able to virtually “reverse time” and rebuild steamy and hot attraction between the two of you again.

This is what they call an electronic book or eBook…which means you can download it instantly…and start in the next 5 minutes.

It is very inexpensive…but more importantly The Ex Recovery System is surprisingly effective…you will be amazed at how well it really works…

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Why WOMEN Leave A Relationship

Women tend to be very loyal in a relationship. Usually they’re the ones who want to make the relationship work, even when all signs point to trouble.

Women, by nature are born to want to be mothers. They’re usually more nurturing and caring. This is why they will want to seek commitment earlier than a man will.

Therefore women tend to seek men who they believe will produce good offspring and STAY for the long haul. The factor they will use to judge how well he’ll be for her in the long term is how well the man TREATS her. Does he listen? Does he care? Does he appreciate her?

A woman needs to know her man loves her, needs her and will BE there for her NO MATTER WHAT. He needs to be HER ROCK.

What turns a woman off is when a man stops appreciating, listening or acting like the kind of man she needs him to be. If a man isn’t there for her, she’ll feel compelled to find someone else who CAN and will take care of her.

The Cure?

Start to appreciate what she does, listen to her needs and BE there for her. She doesn’t want you to fix all her problems, she just need you to listen and CARE.

These are actually really easy things to learn. If you still appreciate your girl, which I am assuming you do if you are wanting to get her back…you have to know how to SHOW HER…

Here is one of my most recommended guides you will find on getting your girl back by showing and proving to her how much you appreciate her…it is called The Ex Recovery System.

You can have it right now and get started today because it is set up as an instant download.

Go grab your copy of The Ex Recovery System …it doesn’t cost much for the value that it gives, plus you will know EXACTLY what to do to get your girl back and be surprised at how well your ex responds to what you have learned.

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An ending note for BOTH Men and Women.

Every minute you wait is another minute that you risk having ANOTHER man or ANOTHER woman making YOUR MAN feel admired…or YOUR WOMAN feeling appreciated.

So in case you don’t grab The Ex Recovery System just yet…

Men go out there and make your woman feel appreciated…and ladies go make your make your man feel admired and desired again!

Do you have questions? I’d love to hear from you! Email me anytime at: support@myloverback.com

Best Wishes,

Ashley Kay

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I received this question from one of my Magic Of Making Up customers and thought you might be interested too.

Here’s the question (I’ve left out his name):

“Sorry for bombarding you with questions! I read in Magic Of Making Up that a little outside dating can help our relationship come back together. However, knowing her, I think this will just make her a little more distant. I also don’t have the motivation and interest to date other girls. Is it really important to take this step or can I just skip it?”

Here’s my answer:

I know this is not popular advice. It’s so counterintuitive to our logic AND our emotions (like much of Magic Of Making Up) when we are so in love with someone else.

We also fear that we will anger our ex further…or like you stated, make her more distant.

But when you think about it? The only reason they could become angry is because…

Because?

THEY STILL CARE!!

Right?

Why would they possibly be upset if they didn’t care?

See? (remember Clue #1?)

No matter what they SAY…

But here is the BIGGEST REASON, not the only reason, but the biggest reason why I get so many letters from people that go out on a few dates and then “out of the blue” the ex starts pursuing them.

Here it is…

Because you can SAY you are okay with the breakup. You can SAY you are happy and moving on. You can SAY to your ex that they are going to lose you forever…

You can SAY ANYTHING until the cows come home…

But…

When you ACTUALLY go out on a date with someone else, that ACTION speaks louder than ANY WORDS YOU CAN SAY.

It S-H-O-W-S your ex that you are moving on and you may be gone forever.

Even if they seem upset, in fact, ESPECIALLY when they seem upset…this is the position you want to maneuver into if you ever
want to get them chasing you.

This is psychological pull…instead of you pushing.

Make sense?

And one more thing…

Dating someone else changes YOU on the inside. For too many reasons to list all of them here, but here are a couple:

• It squelches that ‘irrational fear’ that we will end up all alone.
• We temporarily refocus our attention on someone else other than our ex.

And this is a much healthier position to come from when trying to attract anybody…

Yeah?

So, even though I know how tough it is…please go on a few dates.

It is really good for you and will speed up your reunion.

Hope you have enjoyed this article, don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone and try something new! You never know what might happen.

Try Something New Today!

Ashley K.

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#1 – “Marriage break up due to lack of communication”

Lack of communication can come about via many different means, and even couples who have never felt they had an issue in this area, might now find themselves struggling to communicate effectively with one another. One problem is we tend to communicate to our parnters as if they are ‘just like us’. We forget that they have different means to communicate; different wants, desires and things that trigger different responses between the sexes.

The best thing to do when you feel a conflict arising is to stop trying to argue your case all the time. Look at things from your partner’s point of view and be careful with the words you choose to use; especially when your partner is emotional or stressed.

#2 – “Marriage break up due to a lack of affection or appreciation”

A common thing to fight over is the lack of affection you feel from your partner. This usually happens more within women than men, as women in general need to be hugged and romanced daily. If your partner is showing a lack of care in the relationship, first you might want to consider a few other reasons for this, instead of jumping into the worse case scenario.

1). Has your partner been stressed/depressed lately?
2). Have you found yourself getting angry at your partner for no reason?
3). Have you found that your constant need for affection are not being returned?

Before thinking your partner doesn’t care anymore, have a look at what you could have done to push your partner further away. Not sure what I mean? Do you think constantly being snappy at your partner will draw them magically closer to you?

On the other hand, if you *are* trying, talk to them during a moment when they’re relaxed and in a good mood. Get them to open up to you so you can better work on fixing this issue.

#3 – “Marriage break up due to a lack of trust”

Trust is an important element in all relationships, without it, we only end up poisoning ourselves and manifesting trouble out of thin air. If you find yourself jumping to conclusions because you feel your partner isn’t being completely honest with you, a good tip is to consider all possible avenues before thinking its always the worst case scenario. Even if you’re certain they’re lying, by bringing up your doubts, that will only make your partner lie MORE because they think that’s all that you expect from them.

If you want your partner to be honest, trust them and reward that behaviour. They will want to be honest with you if that’s all you ever expect of them.

Your marriage is worth saving and with the right tools, you can restore your relationship to the way you want it to be.